talk of my last will and testamnet
Its not uncommon to walk around this home, my parents home, as I so often am reminded, and here phrases or sentences directed at me for some comment I have made, me hearing what was said 'under the breath' only to say excuse me, hoping it will be repeated loud enough for me to hear it again, only for the person having spoke inflammatory remarks to say, 'oh nothing'.
The more adamant one is about there 'under the breath' comment, the louder it is, but never quite loud enough to spark a conversation a denial or their truth. This evening comments were made about my will, the focus of my brother and I, having a signing this Friday, learning that the papers previously signed would not be seen as legal in the state of Texas. And it was interesting to 'hear' talk of how material things are just things and I have not learned this concept.
The funny thing to me as such assumptions are being made loud enough for me to hear, with the intent for me to hear, as they are discussed when I am not in the room, which is more often than not, the one(s) doing the speaking have no idea what the purpose of my paperwork is and that 'things', material or otherwise, are not the reasoning nor rationale for my last will and testament.
The will sets up my executor, my final wishes regarding my death, a possible viewing, my cremation and spreading of my ashes, the person in charge of said wishes and any medical procedures I adamantly refuse or adhere to as my body weakens and in the event I no longer am able to make decisions on my own due to my mental capacity or simply, my being to sick to act on my behalf.
Once I am dead there is no more power of attorney but an executor, appointed by me, to carry out my wishes, medical and otherwise wherein my things can and may be distributed but only under the request I set forth, any member set to receive anything losing all privilege and revoking all rights to my belongings IF they try to contest, manipulate or not adhere to my wishes.
This being said, it is not done out of secrecy, malice of forethought or stupidity, but is well thought out, knowing my executor and myself are 'on the same page' when it comes to what I want and expect when I no longer exist on this plain.
As far as material things go, it is good to hear those talking about my materialistic ways as the easiest way to prove that they are 'just things' and I understand the bigger picture is to exclude the person(s) completely. After all, they are the one(s) that speak of my need to learn these basic principles and yet they are the one(s) that listen to my medical team, hear what they want and discard the rest, still expecting me to perform as if nothing was wrong...
The more adamant one is about there 'under the breath' comment, the louder it is, but never quite loud enough to spark a conversation a denial or their truth. This evening comments were made about my will, the focus of my brother and I, having a signing this Friday, learning that the papers previously signed would not be seen as legal in the state of Texas. And it was interesting to 'hear' talk of how material things are just things and I have not learned this concept.
The funny thing to me as such assumptions are being made loud enough for me to hear, with the intent for me to hear, as they are discussed when I am not in the room, which is more often than not, the one(s) doing the speaking have no idea what the purpose of my paperwork is and that 'things', material or otherwise, are not the reasoning nor rationale for my last will and testament.
The will sets up my executor, my final wishes regarding my death, a possible viewing, my cremation and spreading of my ashes, the person in charge of said wishes and any medical procedures I adamantly refuse or adhere to as my body weakens and in the event I no longer am able to make decisions on my own due to my mental capacity or simply, my being to sick to act on my behalf.
Once I am dead there is no more power of attorney but an executor, appointed by me, to carry out my wishes, medical and otherwise wherein my things can and may be distributed but only under the request I set forth, any member set to receive anything losing all privilege and revoking all rights to my belongings IF they try to contest, manipulate or not adhere to my wishes.
This being said, it is not done out of secrecy, malice of forethought or stupidity, but is well thought out, knowing my executor and myself are 'on the same page' when it comes to what I want and expect when I no longer exist on this plain.
As far as material things go, it is good to hear those talking about my materialistic ways as the easiest way to prove that they are 'just things' and I understand the bigger picture is to exclude the person(s) completely. After all, they are the one(s) that speak of my need to learn these basic principles and yet they are the one(s) that listen to my medical team, hear what they want and discard the rest, still expecting me to perform as if nothing was wrong...
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